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A Father/Psychologist
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Bad Boys Who Never Grew Up - WHY they did it -
Houston S, Feb 9, 03
I was sorting financial records getting ready for an office move when the phone rang and the caller said "Turn on the TV. Now!"
I couldn't understand why it was happening. But the explanation given to me by a 25-year-old Palestinian working in the U.S. was that terrorism is correct when you've gotten so frustrated you can't stand it any more. And Bin Laden's organization, he said, were just that frustrated.
In psychology there is a concept called emotional maturity. People become emotionally mature when they develop empathy, the ability to feel what others are feeling. This normally prevents them from being able at any time to knowingly hurt another human being. When impulse is still quite strong, the second criteria kicks in. The second criteria for emotional maturity is the ability to override emotions by using reason.
All of us, when we were young, wanted to hit people we were angry with. It felt good. It gave us a feeling of power. But when we had loving mature parents we were taught that it's not right to hit other people when you're angry. Only babies hit people when they're angry. Mature people, grown up people, people whose mothers had respect in the family, have been taught to use their intellect to solve problems.
Martin Luther King was an excellent example. One man, one emotionally mature man, used his intellect to convince the world that one kind of oppression was wrong. He was jailed and even from the jail he continued to write to persuade and educate the world about the wrongness of oppression in Letters from the Birmingham Jail.... "We will have to repent in this generation not merely for the hateful words and actions of the bad people," he wrote, "but for the appalling silence of the good people."
Powerful stuff.
But Ossama Bin Laden is not an emotionally mature person. He's just an angry child who wants to hit people. Most of the world has grown up now. It's just this small group of bad little boys who are still immature, and more animal-like.
And that is the ONLY reason WHY it happened.
S, Feb 9, 03
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